The conversation about desire

When a person opens up about their desires, it's important that the other person responds with openness, curiosity and respect.

Remember that there is no right and wrong. You may have different desires, but that doesn't make your partner wrong. It's crucial for a good conversation about desire and sex that both feel safe and are met in a nice way by the other.

Here are some questions you can ask to understand better:

1. What attracts you to this desire? By asking this, you can gain a deeper understanding of what it is about this specific desire that is attractive to the person.
2. When did you first feel this desire? This can give insight into how long desire has been a part of their sexuality and perhaps uncover some deeper emotional connections.
3. Are there certain situations or moods where you feel this desire more strongly? By asking this question, you can better understand what conditions or circumstances may provoke this desire.
4. How would you like me to respond to or participate in this desire? This is a direct question that clearly communicates your willingness to understand and potentially engage with the other person's desire.
5. Are there any concerns or fears associated with this desire? By asking this question, you can help the person talk about any concerns they may have, which can build greater trust and understanding.

These questions can help create a deeper conversation about desires and can also strengthen the relationship between the two people through open and honest communication.