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Intimacy without the Quest for Climax

Karezza is an intimate practice that shifts the focus from orgasm to intimacy, connection and loving touch. The word "karezza" comes from the Italian word carezzawhich means caressand this is at the heart of this approach to sexuality.

Instead of seeing climax as the goal, karezza invites couples to experience sexuality in a more mindful and slow way - where the journey is more important than the destination. Through gentle caresses, deep eye contact, slow and deliberate movement and a strong presence in the present moment, an intense sense of connection and emotional intimacy is created.

This doesn't mean that orgasm is undesirable - but rather that it is taken off its pedestal to make room for other aspects of intimacy, like relaxation, closeness and deep connection. Paradoxically, when the pressure to perform is removed, the experience can become even more pleasurable.

At LystListen, we see it as a way to experience sexuality from a new perspective - where the merging of body and mind is in focus, rather than the search for a climax. Many find that karezza creates a more spiritual and emotional connection that can strengthen relationships and contribute to long-term happiness and satisfaction.

So why not let go of the chase and enjoy the journey? You may find that when you remove the pressure of expectation, intimacy becomes even more deep and meaningful.

Try some of this under Karezza

• Smile, especially when you make eye contact
• Create skin-to-skin contact
• Give unsolicited recognition with smiles or compliments
• Look your partner in the eye for a few moments
• Listen attentively to your partner
• Silently forgive yourself or your partner for mistakes or thoughtlessness
• Synchronize your breathing with your partner's
• Kiss your partner with your lips and tongue
• Gently rock or hold your partner's head or torso
• Hold or spoon your partner in silence for at least half an hour
• Make wordless sounds of satisfaction or pleasure in the presence of your partner
• Hug your partner with the intention of caring
• Massage your partner, especially on the feet, shoulders or head
• Hug your partner with the intention of giving them reassurance
• Put your ear to your partner's chest to hear their heartbeat
• Suck or gently touch your partner's nipples and breasts
• Gently place your hand over your partner's genitals with the intention of reassuring them